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All we know about Danny DeVito's very famous ex-partner and children as he turns 81


Danny has been separated from Rhea Perlman since 2017, however, they have not officially divorced. They have been in an on and off relationship for years.


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Rebecca LewisLos Angeles correspondent
Nova M BajamontiNews and Features Writer
Updated: November 17, 2025
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Danny DeVito, 81, has had a life full of love and family. He has been in an on and off relationship with Rhea Perlman, 77, for decades. The two have welcomed three children together, however, throughout their tumultuous relationship, they've announced their separation, reconciled, and then separated again. Despite their up and down bond, the two haven't officially gotten divorced.

Danny DeVito attends the Los Angeles Premiere of "Road Diary: Bruce Springsteen & the E Street Band" at Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on October 21, 2024 © Taylor Hill
Danny DeVito is now 81!

Here is a look into Danny's marriage of over 30 years and his three children.

Danny DeVito's wife Rhea Perlman

Danny met actress Rhea Perlman on January 17, 1971, when she attended the only performance of Danny's play The Shrinking Bride. They moved in together two weeks later and got married on January 28, 1982.

Rhea Perlman and Danny DeVito in Louie and the Nice Girl in 1979© ABC Photo Archives
Rhea and Danny in Louie and the Nice Girl in 1979

"I had to meet him immediately," Rhea said in 2017. "I came on to him big time!" Rhea is known for her work in the award-winning comedy Cheers, winning four Emmys for her role as head waitress Carla Tortelli.

Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman after the 36th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards on September 23, 1984 © Ron Galella, Ltd.
Danny and Rhea celebrate after her win at the 1984 Primetime Emmy Awards

Danny and Rhea have appeared together in several projects; their first was in the 1970s sitcom Taxi in which Rhea played the girlfriend of Louie De Palma, played by Danny, and they also starred as Matilda's parents in the 1996 film Matilda.

When did Danny DeVito split from his wife?

In October 2012, Rhea and Danny shocked fans when they announced they had separated after 30 years of marriage and over 40 years together.

Rhea Perlman and Danny DeVito attend as the Center For Reproductive Rights Hosts 6th Annual Los Angeles Benefit at The Maybourne Beverly Hills on March 12, 2024© Vivien Killilea
Rhea and Danny have stayed close amid split

Five months later they reunited but in March 2017, they revealed that they had split for a second time, and had no intent of filing for divorce. "We've been together a very long time, so there's a lot of love and history," she told Page Six. "We agree on enough things, so why [ruin] that with the yucky things that come with a divorce?"

Danny DeVito's three children:

Lucy DeVito during the opening night curtain call for the new play "I Need That" on Broadway at The Roundabout Theatre Company © Bruce Glikas
Lucy DeVito during the opening night curtain call for the new play I Need That"

Danny and Rhea welcomed three children together: Lucy, 42, Grace, 40, and son Jacob, 38.

Lucy is following in her parents' footsteps and has become an actress, after graduating from Brown University in 2007 with a degree in theater. Her first major movie role was the 2009 film Leaves of Grass and has since appeared alongside her mother Rhea in the off-Broadway play Love, Loss, and What I Wore, and her dad Danny in the 2016 film The Comedian.

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In 2023 Lucy and her father reunited again to star together in the Broadway show I Need That, and Rhea joined the pair on opening night.

2024 was also a big year for Lucy as she welcomed her first child with her fiancé, debuting her baby bump at the 2024 SAG Awards.Grace has kept out of the spotlight but received an MFA from CalArts in 2012 and studied at The New York Studio School, and now lives and works in LA focusing on performance art and paintings.

In 2019 Grace married Andy Giannakakis, and they welcomed their son Sinclair in 2023. Jacob, known as Jake, is a producer and director, and he once said in an interview that his childhood was a "great growing up experience for us," as his parents would take their children across the world with them.

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