The strict unwritten rules guests must follow at royal state banquets


There are always unspoken rules when it comes to royal etiquette and that also extends to state banquets. Discover what you must and mustn't do when attending


King Charles and Queen Camilla stand side by side in a gilded palace room, both in formal state regalia with matching blue sashes, Camilla wearing a sapphire tiara and Charles in military evening dress with medals.© Getty Images
Matthew Moore
Matthew MooreSenior Evening Writer
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One of the highlights of any state visit is the extravagant state banquet, where royals dress in their finest, including tiaras, and wow their visitors.

However, it's not just royals who attend these events; prominent figures from the worlds of business, entertainment and politics are also in attendance.

But there are a few rules that need to be followed when dining with the royals, including some mandating when you're actually allowed to eat the food in front of you.

Find out more below…

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A long banquet table laid with gold candelabras and yellow floral arrangements stretches down St George's Hall at Windsor Castle, with guests seated on both sides and King Charles III standing to deliver a speech during the state visit of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu and First Lady Oluremi Tinubu.© Getty Images

Guests should take their seats quickly

Don't mingle

You might think one of the best things about heading to a state banquet is mingling with the other guests ahead of the meal, but once you enter the dining hall, taking your time to talk to the other guests is actually considered quite rude. You're expected to take your seat immediately, after which further rules dictate with whom you may talk.

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Claudia Schiffer, in a black and gold embellished gown, clinks glasses with Sir Keir Starmer in white tie at a flower-decked banquet table.© Getty Images

Conversation is only held between guests sitting with each other

No talking across the table

Once you're seated, you had better hope whoever you're sitting with can hold an interesting conversation. Guests are only allowed to talk to people who are sitting directly adjacent to them, hence why the monarch is always seated next to the guest of honour. Talking across the table is the height of rudeness.

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Guests in evening dress, including the Duke and Duchess of Gloucester, Lina Ghotmeh and Tristan Bromet, walk through a portrait-lined corridor at Windsor Castle ahead of the State Banquet for President Macron.© Getty Images

You'll need empty hands when talking with royalty

No holding glasses

Ahead of the state banquet, certain guests will have the privilege of being presented to the royals. Guests are, of course, expected to bow or curtsy, but they should also be empty-handed when meeting the royals, so no half-finished glasses of champagne.

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Catherine, Princess of Wales, wearing a tiara and sash, smiles and raises a glass to toast with Donald Trump at a formal banquet table.© Getty Images

A simple raise suffices

Don't clink your glass

While many of us at social events may clink our glasses before drinking, this shouldn't be done at a state banquet. Instead, just raise the glass so you acknowledge the other guests.

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Barack Obama smiles at Queen Elizabeth II, who reads from a speech card, at a flower-adorned table during a State Banquet at Buckingham Palace.© Getty Images

The late Queen was known for eating quickly

Don't eat before the monarch

When the delicious meal is served, your first instinct might be to jump straight in, but you're actually not allowed to start eating until the monarch has begun their meal. Similarly, guests should stop eating as soon as the monarch has finished. The late Queen Elizabeth was reportedly a fast eater, so guests needed to be equally speedy.

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A grand banqueting hall at Buckingham Palace, with long tables set in white and gold flanking a red carpet, guests in evening dress standing before the royal party beneath the throne canopy.© Getty Images

You'll need to hold on with your bladder

No bathroom breaks

You might want to moderate your drinking at a state banquet, as once you're seated, you're not allowed to get up to go to the toilet for the entirety of the meal. The only exception to this is in the case of pregnant women, but when they leave, they must cross their utensils on their plate so that staff know that they have not yet finished their meal.

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A grand hall banquet seen from above, with Emperor Naruhito of Japan seated at the top table alongside the Lord Mayor of London Michael Mainelli, Elisabeth Mainelli, Prince Edward and other dignitaries, surrounded by long tables of guests in formal dress beneath a vaulted Gothic ceiling hung with flags.© Getty Images

Guests can't be the first to leave

Don't leave first

Sometimes you can't wait to leave a dinner party, but when you're hosted by the monarch, you're staying for a while. Unless there are major extenuating circumstances, guests aren't allowed to leave until the royals have departed.

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