The real Gareth Southgate: Dear England writer on former England manager's character and World Cup hopes


James Graham, the creator of Dear England, spoke with HELLO! at the 25th Tribeca Film Festival about former England manager, Gareth Southgate


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Tess Hill
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Soccer, or has the Brits call it – football – is taking over America this summer. The United States is hosting the 2026 FIFA World Cup across the country and England is set to take the pitch against Croatia on Wednesday, June 17.

The team is hoping for their first successful World Cup since 1966 and is using the transformation led by former coach Gareth Southgate ahead of their first match. While the beloved coach is very private, there may be someone who knows him well.

James Graham, the creator of both the play and the TV show Dear England, which is about Gareth's tenure as the manager of the England men's football team, spoke with HELLO! at the 25th Tribeca Film Festival about the coach.

 Joseph Fiennes and James Graham attend the "Dear England" Premiere during the 2026 Tribeca Festival at SVA Theater on June 12, 2026 in New York City.© Getty Images
Joseph Fiennes, who stars as Gareth Southgate in Dear England, poses with James Graham

What is Gareth Southgate really like?

"He's famously said he would probably never watch [Dear England]," James told HELLO!, adding: "He's a very humble, shy, introverted guy, which I think we can all respect."

Even though Gareth doesn't want to be in the spotlight, he lent his support for the show. "He still wanted to help," James explained. "He was like, 'How can I help you make the thing I don't want to happen?'"

Gareth Southgate celebrates following victory in 2018© Getty
Gareth seen celebrating after England reached the 2018 World Cup semi-final

For the show, James spent time with Gareth at the England training camp, met his team, and became acquaintances with him ever since.

"He could see the value in having a cultural, artistic representation of his project alongside the sporting one," the Dear England creator said. "His family, his kids, his friends, like most normal humans, don't want to watch an actor playing him on stage. But he's been great."

Gareth married his childhood sweetheart, Alison Bird, in July 1997. The couple are parents to two children, Mia, 24, and Flynn, 20. And while his family doesn't appear in the show, they are supportive of him.

Prince William knighted Sir Gareth Southgate© Alamy Stock Photo
Last July, Gareth was knighted by Prince William

How Dear England came to be

Before Dear England was a hit TV show, it was a play. James revealed to HELLO! where he was when he first pitched the idea.

"[My director and I] were doing a play on Broadway called Ink, and I pitched [Dear England] to him in a gay bar uptown," he shared. "[It] is not [a] likely setting for a story about competitive masculine sports. I'd worked up the courage to pitch it over drinks."

husband and wife posing at event © Getty Images
The manager and his wife have been married for almost 30 years

England in the 2026 World Cup

England hasn't won the World Cup in 60 years, but they have a good shot at taking home the title this year. Now coached by Thomas Tuchel, the team is ranked 4th by FIFA. James shared his thoughts on England's chances at the 2026 World Cup with HELLO!, saying: "Obviously [my hopes are for a] win, but I think we have to be realistic and yet, one of the lessons I love that Gareth tried to instill in his fans was that you have to enjoy the journey towards winning."

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