Robert De Niro reveals why he feels 'guilty' as a father of 7


Robert De Niro still feels 'guilty' being away from his seven children while balancing his Hollywood career with fatherhood


Robert De Niro in a suit and tie standing in white board at film premiere looking at photographers© Getty Images
Jenni McKnight
Jenni McKnightUS Lifestyle Editor
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Robert De Niro revealed that he still struggles with feeling "guilty" when he's away from his seven children.

The actor, 83, has five grown kids, one teenager, and a toddler, and admitted that he finds it difficult to be apart from them while he's working.

Despite his large brood, Robert confessed that he has yet to find the "secret" to balancing fatherhood with his Hollywood career.

"I don't know if there is a secret. It's just managing it all," he recently told People

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"And there's no way around not feeling a little guilty about not being there at times you should, or you think you should," he continued.

And while he is no stranger to raising kids, he admitted that each time has been "a new experience."

Robert De Niro on talk show© Getty Images
Robert admitted he feels 'guilty' being away from his children

"It's not like you've taken courses on it and stuff," he added. "You can, of course, but you don't. You just jump in and you have the child and you got to... That's it."

Robert shares his first two children, Drena, 54, whom he adopted, and Raphael, 49, with his ex-wife, Diahnne Abbott. 

The Raging Bull star then got into a relationship with model Toukie Smith, with whom he had twins Julian and Airyn, 30. 

The pair met on the set of Taxi Driver© Getty Images
Robert and his first wife Diahnne Abbott

During his marriage to Grace Hightower, Robert welcomed son Elliot, 28, on March 18, 1998, and daughter Helen, 14, was delivered via surrogate in December 2011. 

He , , in 2023, with his girlfriend Tiffany Chen.

"It feels great," he told AARP after Gia’s birth. "Everything that I'm consumed with or worried about just goes away when I look at her. It's wondrous."

robert de niro and daughter gia© Courtesy of Robert De Niro
Robert with his youngest child, daughter Gia

Being an older dad hasn't been easy, however. "There are great moments and moments of sadness," Robert has said. 

"Sometimes you're the last person they want to deal with. It's like when you walk your kids to school, and they get older and they don't want to hold your hand or kiss you goodbye."

But there is also so much happiness to be had. He described Gia as a "great joy," and told People: "She’s such an adorable baby. So sweet. [When I] look at her, everything else goes away. So it's a great joy and relief to just be with her in the moment.

WASHINGTON, DC - APRIL 10: Actor Robert De Niro (R) and Tiffany Chen arrive at the White House for a state dinner on April 10, 2024 in Washington, DC. U.S. President Joe Biden and first lady Jill Biden are hosting a state dinner for Japanese Prime Minister Fumio Kishida as part of his official state visit.  (Photo by Tasos Katopodis/Getty Images)© Getty Images
Robert and his girlfriend, Tiffany Chen

The Oscar winner added: "The kids all get a big kick out of her. The grandkids even. She's their aunt – [and] they're about to be teenagers! The fact that they'd all be together is everything to me."

Robert also imparted his words of wisdom on approaching fatherhood during an interview with Entertainment Tonight in 2025. "The main thing is to support your kids," he said.

CANNES, FRANCE - MAY 21: Robert De Niro attends the "Killers Of The Flower Moon" photocall at the 76th annual Cannes film festival at Palais des Festivals on May 21, 2023 in Cannes, France. (Photo by Gareth Cattermole/Getty Images)© Getty Images
Robert said being a parent means supporting your kid

"As long as they're not hurting themselves, doing anything destructive or anything like that, you have to support them – period."

He emphasized: "Even if you don't go with it – you have to support them. And they have to know that you support them. Always."

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