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NCIS star Wilmer Valderrama makes brave admission about parenthood

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Rebecca Lewis
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NCIS star Wilmer Valderrama has revealed he felt "bad" for sleep training his daughter even though he finds it "empowering".

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The 41-year-old and fiancée Amanda Pacheco welcomed their daughter, Nakano, who turns 1 in February, in 2021, with Amanda deciding to breastfeed and Wilmer being there every step of the way. The pair chose to sleep train - a method that teaches the baby to fall asleep without help from their parents - and Wilmer admitted that he didn't think he "had the heart for it, because it made me feel bad".

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However, he has since realized it is "so empowering" and "allows you to focus on your partner" and "stay connected".

"Your job as a partner is not just to be there," Wilmer told

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"You’re not doing anything, you’re not doing enough. There are a million things to be done while your partner is nursing: Get the baby, change the baby, burp the baby, track the feeding, and keep the mommy hydrated, fed, and rested."

Wilmer and Amanda, 31, met three years ago when a mutual friend put them in touch as the model was considering a move to Miami, where Wilmer grew up after emigrating as a child from Venezuela.

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Wilmer with Nakona in September 2021

But the pair fell in love, and it was on a trip to Nakona in Japan where they "made a promise that it would always be us" and as Amanda shares, decided to "throw themselves in the deep end".

Wilmer proposed on 1 January 2020, nine months after their first date, and on 15 February 2021 their little girl was born; their wedding has been postponed due to the coronavirus pandemic.

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Wilmer and Amanda cover the new issue of Parents

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