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Gwyneth Paltrow admits to 'deep sense of impending grief' over teen son with Chris Martin

The Goop founder shares son Moses and daughter Apple with her Coldplay frontman ex

Gwyneth Paltrow attends the "Contagion" premiere during the 68th Venice Film Festival at Palazzo del Cinema on September 3, 2011 in Venice, Italy
Ahad Sanwari
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Gwyneth Paltrow is not excited about the prospect of becoming an empty nester once her son Moses leaves the family home for college this fall.

The Goop founder, 51, spoke with The Sunday Times about why she's not looking forward to her 17-year-old, the youngest in her family, leaving home along with her stepson Brody, husband Brad Falchuk's son.

She told the publication: "I've been so defined and so fulfilled by motherhood. I don't even know how to articulate it. It's like the guiding force. It's what I return to."

She explained that she preferred to sacrifice an extensive social life in order to get more time to spend with Moses before he leaves, a policy she'd originally also extended to 19-year-old Apple, who left home in 2022 for New York.

"I never really go anywhere or do anything because I want to be around my kids while they live at home. You know, it's like, 'Oh, we're doing a girls' weekend here and there,' and I'm like, '[expletive] no, I have 88 days left of Moses living [with me]."

"It's been basically 20 years of me being beholden to a school calendar – so what will that feel like to not have that?" she mused, adding that the idea of him leaving brought "incredible sadness" to mind.

gwyneth paltrow and son moses© Instagram
Gwyneth's son Moses will be leaving for college this fall

"On the one hand, incredible sadness. A deep sense of impending grief," Gwyneth shared. "On the other hand, this is exactly what should be happening." 

"Your kids are supposed to be young adults who can achieve and cope and make connections and be resilient. That's exactly what you want. And that means they leave the house."

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Gwyneth shares Moses and Apple with ex-husband Chris Martin, and is also a stepmother to her husband Brad Falchuk's two children. Although it seems like having a positive role model in a stepmother is par for the course in the Paltrow-Martin household.

Gwyneth with her kids Apple and Moses© Instagram
The actress is also a mom to daughter Apple with ex Chris Martin

Dakota Johnson, Chris' longtime girlfriend, spoke honestly about her connection with her boyfriend's two children in a recent interview with Bustle, simply saying: "I love those kids like my life depends on it. With all my heart," describing them as "extraordinarily talented people" later in the interview.

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Earlier in the month, Gwyneth spoke at the Visionary Women's International Women's Day Summit about growing into being a good stepmom to her husband's children.

Photo shared by Gwyneth Paltrow on Instagram in honor of Father's Day of her and Chris Martin with their kids Apple and Moses© Instagram
"It's been basically 20 years of me being beholden to a school calendar – so what will that feel like to not have that?"

"I really like to talk about this because it's one of my biggest learnings as a human being," she told the crowd. "And my area of growth personally came from the initial difficult relationship I had with my stepkids and now they're like my kids."

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She called the path to their strong present relationship "really tough," adding" "It's almost like you have to embody the spirit of the sun and just give and not expect anything back."

Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Falchuk attend "The Politician" New York Premiere at DGA Theater on September 26, 2019 in New York City© Getty Images
The star is also a mom to husband Brad Falchuk's two children

"I just learned to try to just keep shining like the sun and never keeping score."

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