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The Queen's 11 royal wedding rules for Kate Middleton, Meghan Markle and more brides

These secret guidelines are sometimes broken

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Rachel Avery
Homes Editor
August 17, 2022
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From bridal bouquets to wedding dresses and photographs, there are a lot of choices to be made when it comes to your wedding day – but what if you had to run them by a family member, too?

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The Duchess of CambridgePrincess Eugenie and more royal brides included Her Majesty The Queen in their decision-making when planning their big day. Why? There are certain protocols and rules the royals have to follow, but some of them have been broken from time to time – take a look.

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Royal weddings require permission

The Royal Marriages Act 1772 requires members of the royal family to obtain permission from the Queen to marry. So any royal proposal plans will have to be checked with Her Majesty first before there is any hint of getting down on one knee.

Royal brides undergo training

Once the couple is happily engaged, if the bride is not already a royal, and is set to be welcomed into the family, things get rather serious. Both Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle took training courses in what it means to be 'royal' – everything from who to curtsy to – and when, as well as a very intense SAS training session for their own safety.

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Meghan Markle perfecting her curtsy

According to Finding Freedom by Omid Scobie and Carolyn Durand, Meghan fast-tracked her training due to the very serious threats the couple were having.

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Royal brides require dress approval

The Queen is one of the special people to see the bride's wedding dress prior to the big day – simply so she can give her nod of approval. It is likely that Her Majesty will eye the dress designs before work even takes place on the gown. Of course, the brides and their seamstresses already know the royal protocol surrounding formal royal outfits.

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Meghan Markle's second wedding dress veered from the royal bride dress code

These rules include no short hemlines, no low necklines, and no shoulders on display. However, Meghan Markle made a rather risqué decision with her second wedding dress when she stepped out in a Stella McCartney halterneck gown.

Royal brides wear British designers

Out of respect for the British monarchy, it is expected that any royal bride will wear a British designer on their wedding day. David and Elizabeth Emanuel designed Diana's iconic wedding dress and Sarah Burton for Justin Alexander was behind Kate Middleton's stunning lace gown.

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Kate Middleton stunned in her Justin Alexander wedding dress

With Meghan Markle being American and favouring many US and Canadian fashion brands it was rumoured she may break with tradition, however on her wedding day in 2018, she wore a beautiful simplistic style from British stylist and designer Clare Waight Keller.

Royal brides have tiara rules

It is a tradition that tiaras are only worn by royal brides on their wedding day or by married women. So it's a very special appointment for royal brides to meet with the Queen to select a tiara for their wedding day.

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Prince Eugenie wore an emerald tiara loaned from The Queen on her wedding day

A 150 ft long basement vault is home to Her Majesty's jewellery collection and royal brides are invited in to browse the pieces. However, according to Finding Freedom, the Queen whittles down the selection herself, limiting the choice for the bride-to-be.

Royal brides have a young bridal party

Traditionally, the big day will feature some adorable young bridesmaids and page boys, many of which are royal. Prince William and Kate’s eldest children Prince George and Princess Charlotte had big roles at Princess Eugenie's royal wedding, while Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson enlisted Princess Anne's children, Peter Phillips and Zara Tindall.

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Eugenie's bridal party included Prince George and Princess Charlotte

However, Duchess Kate also chose her sister Pippa Middleton to be a maid of honour, making her one of the few adult members of a royal bridal party.

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Royal wedding rings are all the same

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All royal wedding rings are made from Welsh gold

It is an age-old tradition that royal brides (and grooms if they choose to have a ring) will have their wedding rings made from Welsh gold – and the gold will be personally gifted by the Queen. For nearly 200 years, the royal family have opted for this as the rarest and most expensive type of gold in the world. Unconventionally, Princess Beatrice opted for a silver design.

Royal brides have similar bouquets   

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Royal brides all have a sprig of myrtle in their bouquets 

Another royal rule for brides to stick to is when it comes to selecting the flowers for their beautiful bouquet. They are free to choose their favourite blooms, or ones that have meanings to them however, the bouquet must include sprigs of myrtle to be in keeping with royal etiquette. The tradition began in 1858 when Queen Victoria's daughter included it – and it has been used ever since.

Royal brides part with their bouquets

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Princess Beatrice's bouquet was placed on the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior

There is no throwing of the bouquet at a royal affair, instead, the bride's floral posy is laid on the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior out of respect. A tradition started by the Queen Mother, royal brides either leave their bouquets here on the day (if they get married at Westminster Abbey) or travel there the day after to pay their respects.

Royal brides have this traditional wedding cake

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The Duke and Duchess of Sussex bucked tradition with a lemon and elderflower cake

Fruit cake is almost always on the menu at a royal wedding! Lady Gabriella Windsor chose three different sponges by baker Fiona Cairns: a luxury rich fruit cake, a classic Victoria sponge and a Limoncello sponge cake. Meanwhile, William and Kate had an eight-tiered iced fruit cake plus the Duke's favourite childhood treat, an unbaked chocolate biscuit cake.

Meghan and Harry surprised royal fans by choosing a non-traditional lemon and elderflower cake made by Claire Ptak.

Royal couples must have official photographs

Royal brides do not really have the option of having an unplugged, off-grid wedding with no photographic evidence – all royal weddings have formal portraits taken with their closest family to keep in the historic records.

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Princess Beatrice married during the coronavirus pandemic

Even Princess Beatrice and Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi who opted for a private, low-key wedding released official pictures of their stunning day.

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