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Matthew Perry's emotional final birthday gift to lifelong friend Lauren Graham revealed

The Friends star and the Gilmore Girls star had been long-time friends


LOS ANGELES, CA - AUGUST 29:  Actors Matthew Perry (L) and Lauren Graham present the Guest Actress & Actor In A Comedy Series awards onstage at the 62nd Annual Primetime Emmy Awards held at the Nokia Theatre L.A. Live on August 29, 2010 in Los Angeles, California.  (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
Bryony Gooch
US Writer
On 6 April 2024
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Lauren Graham is getting candid about her relationship with the late Friends star Matthew Perry, who passed away last year.

Lauren and Matthew, rumored to have dated for a while, were longtime friends - and the Gilmore Girls star opened up about his final gift to her - "a pickleball set", she revealed during a Q&A for her Have I Told You This Already? book tour, which caused the audience to laugh.

LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 11:  Actress Lauren Graham attends the Women In Entertainment's 4th Annual Summit at the Skirball Cultural Center on October 11, 2018 in Los Angeles, California.  (Photo by Amanda Edwards/Getty Images)© Amanda Edwards
Lauren Graham in 2018

"He's like really into tennis and pickleball, with a card that said: 'Be older'", she added, explaining that the gift was for her 56th birthday in March 2023.

Lauren clarified that "while he was not technically ever a boyfriend, he was an almost in my life," adding that he was "a friend and a constant."

"We would stretch for a year, then he would come back in my life, and he had just come back in my life last year", she explained, calling his death a "terrible loss".

Actress Lauren Graham and actor Matthew Perry attend P.F. Chang's Home Menu Frozen Moments Gift Lounge backstage celebrating the 62nd Primetime Emmy Awards by On 3 Productions - Day 1 at Nokia Theatre L.A. Live on August 28, 2010 in Los Angeles, California.© Michael Bezjian
Lauren Graham and Matthew Perry were long time friends

"It’s still really hard to believe", she said of his death. 

Lauren added that she had been able to take solace in seeing him at the time as "he was so thrilled with how his book was received — and not just because it was a huge success, but because his life’s work kind of became, 'How can I give back? How can I talk about the struggles I had and hopefully help someone else?'"

The duo had been close, with the Friends star calling Lauren "one of my favorite people" during a Q&A for the show The Odd Couple, adding: "We have great chemistry when working together and it’s fun to work with a close friend".

LOS ANGELES, CA - AUGUST 29:  Actors Matthew Perry (L) and Lauren Graham present the Guest Actress & Actor In A Comedy Series awards onstage at the 62nd Annual Primetime Emmy Awards held at the Nokia Theatre L.A. Live on August 29, 2010 in Los Angeles, California.  (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)© Kevin Winter
Lauren revealed Matthew's final birthday gift to her

Matthew passed away October 28, 2023 in his Los Angeles home. He was found dead in his jacuzzi by his assistant. The Los Angeles County coroner attributed his death to the acute effects of ketamine.

Stars across the industry spoke out about the tragedy of his loss.

Zac Efron made a special mention of the actor as he unveiled his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame: "I really also want to mention someone that’s not here today, And that’s Matthew Perry, who was so kind and generous with me when we worked on 17 Again."

The High School Musical star added: "Collaborating with him and Burr Steers was so much fun and it really did propel me and motivate me in so many ways. It really pushed me into the next chapter of my career and for that, thank you so much Matthew. Thinking about you a lot today."

Jennifer Aniston said of her Friends co-star: "He KNEW he loved to make people laugh. As he said himself, if he didn't hear the ‘laugh’ he thought he was going to die. His life literally depended on it." 

She added: "And boy did he succeed in doing just that. He made all of us laugh. And laugh hard. In the last couple weeks, I’ve been pouring over our texts to one another. Laughing and crying then laughing again."