Shailene Woodley, 34, grew up on screen. At 17, she rose to fame in the teen drama The Secret Life of the American Teenager. Soon after, she appeared in the YA hits The Fault In Our Stars and the Divergent series.
While Shailene's characters fall in love on screen, she intentionally keeps her dating life private.
"I fall in love with human beings based on who they are, not based on what they do or what sex they are," she told the Hollywood Reporter in 2020 of her attitude towards relationships, and in 2023 she said of her high-profile former engagement to NFL star Aaron Rodgers: "It honestly never really hit me that millions of people around the world were actually watching these things and paid attention to them."
Keep reading to learn more about Shailene's ultra-private relationship history.
© FilmMagicShailene Woodley and Nahko Bear:
After Shailene found fame on The Secret Life of the American Teenager (2008–2013), she starred alongside George Clooney in 2011's Oscar-nominated The Descendants, and 2013's The Spectacular Now.
In 2014, she met musician Nahko Bear, the frontman of indie group Nahko and Medicine For the People, and their romance went public in November of that year when they were pictured enjoying a sunset together in Hawaii.
In May 2015, Bear's sister, Nicki, took to social media to share a series of pictures that included a snap of Bear and Shailene with Nicki's friends during a trip to California.
© Tibrina HobsonShailene Woodley and Ben Volavola:
In 2017 she was linked to rugby player Ben Volavola, after reportedly meeting him when she was filming Adrift in Fiji.
He played for Fiji in the Rugby World Cup, and in 2019 he told Rugbypass of their romance: "I'm blessed to have met a girl like her. Before me, she had never watched sports on TV. Since then, she has started to learn the rules of rugby. She even comes to see us at the Arena."
Sadly they split in 2020 and Shailene acknowledged it was because she was "still at an age where I wasn’t able to fully commit".
"I couldn’t be available to him in the way that I wanted to be. I didn’t fully love myself," she said.
© Getty ImagesShailene Woodley and Aaron Rodgers:
In 2020 she met then-Green Bay Packers quarterback Aaron Rodgers, and their romance went public in 2021 when he called her his "fiancee".
"I've made decisions and changes and habits that put me in a lot better headspace and there's just a lot of things that have come together in my life over the last few months that have really been enjoyable," he said in September 2020 hinting at the early days of their romance.
His 2020/2021 season ended in January 2021 and the following month, he was awarded the league's MVP award at the NFL Honors ceremony, and called out his "fiancee" for their support.
Two weeks later Shailene confirmed the news, revealing Aaron had dropped to one knee "a while" before everyone found out.
© InstagramShailene's comments on her engagement
"Everybody right now is freaking out over it and we're like, 'Yeah, we've been engaged for a while,'" she told host Jimmy Fallon.
"He’s, first of all, a wonderful, incredible human being. But I never thought I’d be engaged to someone who throws balls for a living."
"But he’s really so good at it," she said laughing. "When we met, I knew he was a football guy but I never knew what kind of a football guy he was ... I am still constantly learning because I don’t know him as the football guy. I know him as, like, the nerd who wants to host Jeopardy! That’s the guy I know. He just happens to also be very good at sports."
© Getty ImagesAaron Rodgers' recent comments about their relationship
Shailene and Aaron split in 2022 with sources close to the pair alleging that it was "very amicable" and that it "just wasn't working".
Four years after the two broke up, Aaron broke his silence on their split. During an appearance on the Not Just Football podcast, the quarterback claimed that just after he proposed to Shailene, she told him she was going to sleep with another man before their wedding.
"She maybe felt like she was forced to make a decision. She could have said no," he said. "A couple days after that, she tells me, 'Before we get married, I gotta go [expletive] this guy.'"
Aaron went on: "Her story is that I ruined her life and gave her crazy depression, because I left her. But the actuality is she told me that, then she took off the ring by March and we had a couple times we tried to get reunited and nothing ever happened. There wasn't even a relationship in 2022 to break off."
© Getty ImagesLucas Bravo
In March 2025, Shailene was spotted with the Emily in Paris actor Lucas Bravo holding hands in Paris. When asked about their relationship, Lucas told People: "Yeah, I'm really happy."
Months later, the two went their separate ways, with a source sharing that Shailene was focused on work.
